Just got back from Palm Springs! Talk about rejuvination! I just fucked anonymous people like a gay man at a spa and I feel great! I had to go to Carls Jr afterwards. I had to. I was starving. I already broke my fast food fast after the LAST group sexcapade I had the other night. But, as you may remember in my last blog, was not the dignified slut experience I was seeking even though elements of it were amazing. So, It seems as if I was on some sort of sexual rampage this week. Above and beyond the usual excitement that happens in my escort life, I was going buck wild and taking strangers home from bars and then decided to adventure to Palm Springs/Desert Hot Springs where Sea mountain Inn, the adult playspace/swingers hotel was located. I had been there before. A long long time ago. 2006 to be exact. Whoa. I told the office staff woman, a sexy Caucasian from the Valley looking girl. “That’s a long time.” She smiled. “why has it taken you so long to come back?” “I don’t know”, I said.”Playspaces give me anxiety. I’m shy. I have to be in a real crazy mood. Probably like the kind of mood a guy has when he calls a hooker but it makes him nervous.” I’m not REALLY shy, I just need to GO more often, like she was saying. Get my ass used to this culture. And it was really an easy culture to get used to…
The first people that I see was this cute couple in their 20s wearing robes. The guy was cute, 29 year old, the “older” half. I looked at him and totally hoped I would be fucking him sometime through the night. His girlfriend was pretty as well. I was in luck! Swinger couples are friendly, of course. You know friendly in the way that men are at a bar or club. “Ulterior Motive Friendly.” It’s fascinating. The people at swinger places can mostly be divided into two groups: newbies and veterans. And there are people like me who perhaps go into the intermediate category as a sex worker but in the beginner category because of my trauma hang ups that make public sex spaces filled with anxiety…but there aren’t too many single women who have the guts to come to Swinger spots alone. I remember back in 2006 when I met the owner, he pegged me as an escort right away. It makes sense. Women are not cultured to go after sexual desires without certain societal punishments. This is what I just proved when I had my disrespectful slut experience from earlier in the week. Escorts and porn star women do, and they would more likely be the types of women who would show up single to a Swinger place. Most other women, even in the U.S do not know what it means to break through that social boundary.
IF YOU ARE A HORNY, QUEER WOMAN WHO WOULD LIKE TO HAVE AMAZING SEX WITH OTHER SEXY, LIBERATED WOMEN TODAY, A SWINGER SPOT IS WHERE YOU WANT TO BE. I put it in caps and I put in bold, in hopes that I NEVER forget my own advice and return very soon. I have a bunch of lesbian identified friends that I have gone to Dinah Shore in Palm Springs with. They don’t get laid at Dinah either! They go to the Hedonist island parties in Jamaica for swingers to get their fill of endless pussy! If you don’t have sex with dudes, you will be respected! There are soo many bisexual wives just aching for skilled dykes to show up and fuck the shit out of them while their husbands watch and don’t interact. So many women like that it’s insane.
As a single horny queer woman, it was really really an amazing experience for me. They call the role I play, the role of the UNICORN, in threesome play. She is magical. Enticing. Firestarter. Well…I was waiting for this couple to invite me in. The anticipation of it was suuper exciting. I love to play coy slut submissive and pretend that I am shyer than I am. “Do you wanna join us?” she asked while she was riding her boyfriends cock next to me in the hot tub. I jokingly looked to the left and right of me and asked,”Are you talking to me?” She was 24 years old, a singer in Disneyland shows! We had the performance thing in common. She had never been in a threesome before or with a woman. Me and this other hot 34 yo Blonde bombshell who had cum in the picture made her orgasm pretty easily by eating her pussy together while she leaned back on her boyfriend, him playing with her tits from behind while he kissed her neck. She was actually quite good at eating my pussy. Good at taking instruction. It was great fun to be attacked by her and pushed back against a wall. Another couple had earlier joined our hot tub party. The girl was hotter than the guy, but she was truly into what he was giving, which was fun to watch. I got to slap her face and dominate her a bit, that was fun. I had a great time. 3 orgasms from 3 different people is NOT such a shabby night, even for a seasoned whore. The women were phenomenal sexual beings as well. I could not have been more lucky. I did find myself feeling jealous of their hot sex filled love relationships however, and I did feel like I wanted to cuddle someone after I came but it felt a little awkward to ask that of these folks that I just met not too long ago and had no emotional connection with. This is what makes anonymous sex culture so strange, especially for women-nurturer types. I realize how different MY sex work routine is to just a wham bam thank you ma’am. It’s anything but that. This is because I NEED it to be. I think I stayed at the resort a little longer, I would have gotten a couple to adopt me and adorn me with cuddling affection like I needed, but I was only there for 5 hours!
Dinah Shore is full of hot honies in bikinis getting drunk and fucked up while dancing to mainstream hip pop music. But WHERE is the fucking SEX happening in that lesbian utopia, because I obviously DON’T KNOW. Dinah Shore is like a strip club and Sea Mountain is like the brothel after the strip club. In fact, just one week after Dinah, when you go to the Palm Springs White Party which caters to gay BOYS on drugs and listening to electronic music, there would be SEX SPOTS all over the place and condoms on the bathroom floor. Sex would be everywhere and it would have to be stepped over to be avoided. I have always envied my gay brother for that access. I hate how queer women can be so fucking difficult sometimes.
Sea Mountain is in Desert Hot springs and is a hotel and a day spa. It’s $39 + $20 6 mo membership=$56 as a single woman or $99 for couples including food and drinks, towels, etc. There are NO SINGLE MEN allowed. Sigfried and Roy played there and have an autographed glossy in the lobby! (I guess they’re bisexual and count as a couple, LOL). As a queer person, I will tell you that the swinging scene IS predominantly heteronormative (in the same way that mainstream porn movies are (bisexual usually means WSW or WWM/cisgendered girl on girl) but we (or definitely I) enjoy them anyway because the girls are really bisexual/really queer too but the heteronorm can take over and blind us from this fact). Let me rephrase that: cisgendered girl on girl can STILL be queer, and neglecting yourself from experiences or images because “its supposedly made for the pleasures of straight men” is to be satisfied with the oppression. Take your dyke ass to the swinger hotel and fuck the shit out of his wife while he masturbates. It feels good for all of the reasons you think it might!
My MOST memorable experience there would have to be while I am leaning back in ecstasy a couple is SHARING my pussy and the hostess of the place asks right then and there,”would you like another Margarita?” Wow. I told her,”Wow, If you actually DO the refill while this is happening, I’ll probably feel like I’ve died and gone to heaven.” Indeed. She filled my glass and I reached a new sexual height that I did not and could not have bargained for when I walked in the door.